EDIT: After this the Author Dan went back and edited the article, improving on all the points I mentioned. It's great when you realize your comments actually matter. Thank you for taking the time!
Great piece that people, me included can find themselves in. Effort being equal to love. That If we had done the right thing, the girl may have chosen us, life could have been different.
It hurts.
But it could hurt more. I like to leave honest reviews. You have strong ideas, great visuals, but you over explain. Summarize yourself in your own post.
I glazed over the part where you started naming the goal posts for example.
The emotional moments of article also need more space to breath.
Give them their own lines.
The moment with the girl feels buried, when it was the catalyst.
You also tell the reader what happens before it happens a lot. "Then something uncomfortable happend" Either say, "Then I noticed something" or just cut lines like those and just let it happen.
Again this is not to take away from the article. I really like it actually and will read new articles you release. This is simply the way I feel comfortable interacting with posts.
Most memorable part was you stepping down as a CEO.
I appreciate you taking the time to write this. Especially with the level of detail you went into.
You’re right about the overexplaining. It’s something I’ve been catching myself doing more lately, and I’m trying to move towards trusting the moments more instead of explaining them.
The note about giving emotional moments space also landed. I can see how I sometimes compress the parts that should actually breathe.
And I’m glad the CEO moment stood out, that was one of the parts that felt most real to write.
Thank you for the honest critique, it’s genuinely helpful.
Your a very spectacularly right. A man should keep aiming to achieve their goals and adapt to changes in their environment whether socially or psychologically
I feel that most of the time we only realise the target shifted after we’ve already begun moving toward it. The idea that every new goalpost comes with a small loss of identity is so true. I guess growth isn’t just about gaining new ambitions, it’s also about letting go of versions of ourselves that once felt so certain and final.
What really stood out while writing this piece was how each version of certainty felt complete while I was living it. Only in hindsight I noticed that as transitional.
The tension between solidity and fluidity is what I was trying to capture there.
Your admission that your current version is not final is a powerful perspective because it frames life as a continuous process where shifting the goalpost is an act of integrity rather than a lack of direction. I find that moving the target when there is internal misalignment is a necessary way to acknowledge the growth that the process demands and your clarity on this slow and unfinished journey is deeply inspiring.
EDIT: After this the Author Dan went back and edited the article, improving on all the points I mentioned. It's great when you realize your comments actually matter. Thank you for taking the time!
Great piece that people, me included can find themselves in. Effort being equal to love. That If we had done the right thing, the girl may have chosen us, life could have been different.
It hurts.
But it could hurt more. I like to leave honest reviews. You have strong ideas, great visuals, but you over explain. Summarize yourself in your own post.
I glazed over the part where you started naming the goal posts for example.
The emotional moments of article also need more space to breath.
Give them their own lines.
The moment with the girl feels buried, when it was the catalyst.
You also tell the reader what happens before it happens a lot. "Then something uncomfortable happend" Either say, "Then I noticed something" or just cut lines like those and just let it happen.
Again this is not to take away from the article. I really like it actually and will read new articles you release. This is simply the way I feel comfortable interacting with posts.
Most memorable part was you stepping down as a CEO.
It was unexpected and gripping.
I appreciate you taking the time to write this. Especially with the level of detail you went into.
You’re right about the overexplaining. It’s something I’ve been catching myself doing more lately, and I’m trying to move towards trusting the moments more instead of explaining them.
The note about giving emotional moments space also landed. I can see how I sometimes compress the parts that should actually breathe.
And I’m glad the CEO moment stood out, that was one of the parts that felt most real to write.
Thank you for the honest critique, it’s genuinely helpful.
Your a very spectacularly right. A man should keep aiming to achieve their goals and adapt to changes in their environment whether socially or psychologically
Thanks, I appreciate that.
Adaptation is an important skill to have. We need goals, but even more than that, we need to be able to adjust as life changes around us.
You have beautifully summed up life, Dan! Love this
Thanks.
Thoughtful and full of reminders. Thank you! Gods Blessings 🤜🏼🤛🏾❤️🕉️✝️🪯☪️🌬️🍃🪶🍀🕺🏼🌞🌕🌍🤙🏽
Thanks Casey, and same to you.
I feel that most of the time we only realise the target shifted after we’ve already begun moving toward it. The idea that every new goalpost comes with a small loss of identity is so true. I guess growth isn’t just about gaining new ambitions, it’s also about letting go of versions of ourselves that once felt so certain and final.
Yeah, every new direction retires an old self.
We celebrate the gain, but we rarely acknowledge the loss.
We outgrow versions that once felt final, and in doing so we lose the stability they once gave us.
Being so aware about the life situation is really important
And you are self aware
Really felt motivated Reading your story
Keep writing and be hopeful
Thanks for sharing and keep writing 💫
Just highlighting this part
“The man I am becoming is not impressed by the man I used to be.”
Some goalposts were about survival.
Some were about identity.
Some were about expansion.
Some were about correction.
Some were about meaning.
A version of certainty.
A version of my identity.
A version of myself that felt solid at the time.
if history is any indication, I won’t see it clearly until I’m already aiming at it.
Or until I’m looking back.
Thanks, I appreciate that.
What really stood out while writing this piece was how each version of certainty felt complete while I was living it. Only in hindsight I noticed that as transitional.
The tension between solidity and fluidity is what I was trying to capture there.
That was really beautiful Dan Ackers, showing life in its various form and here is to keep moving the goalpost. Have a good one mate!!!
Thank you … Umm should I call you Easy? or Weezy?
What can I call you buddy?
Well Easy is fine although Weezy is just the short form of my real name Wisdom!!
That sounds just like you're showing off.
Perhaps I'll just go with Weasel. That's close enough right? :P
😆😆😆 thats a goalpost just moved
Easy is sure fine
All right, thank you Easy 😃
You welcome mate
Love how you frame change as intrinsic to life: there is, for sure, not a final version of ourselves, as long as we’re here.
Thank you.
The idea of a “final version” feels comforting, but it’s not very honest.
As long as we’re here, something is still adjusting.
Your admission that your current version is not final is a powerful perspective because it frames life as a continuous process where shifting the goalpost is an act of integrity rather than a lack of direction. I find that moving the target when there is internal misalignment is a necessary way to acknowledge the growth that the process demands and your clarity on this slow and unfinished journey is deeply inspiring.
I appreciate you framing it that way.
I think we’re often taught that consistency equals strength. But I’ve found staying true to yourself sometimes require visible shifts.
Having integrity isn’t to hold the same goal forever, but adjusting it when growth demands it.
Thank you. I’m glad it landed.